need to understand why. Transsexual FAQ's
A) A Transsexual (TS) is a person born with the mind and soul of one gender and the body of another gender. This results in Gender Dysphoria Creating extreme distress until the mind and body are one. The are both male to female (MTF) and Female to male (FTM) versions. Joing of mind and body can be accomplished with gender changing Sex Reassignment Surgery (SRS) or sometimes called (GRS) for Gender Reassignment Surgery. Many describe it as being born in the wrong body. Transsexualism is not a life style choice. Its is inborn.
When did it start?
Many transsexual children did voice their distress with being brought
up in the wrong gender. Usually parents didn't believe them and dismissed
it as a phase they would grow out of. They believed that by forcing
a boy to be more masculine and a girl to be more feminine that the
problem would go away. Usually what it did was force their True feelings
into hiding. Almost none are given the help they need.
forced to be something you are not is cruel. Many have trouble in
school and in social situations because they do not identify with
their peers. It fosters low self esteem, beatings name calling and
withdrawal. Most have no friends of the same gender. To Protect themselves
many start acting like their peers. Its either that or ostracism.
So many pretend to blend into their assigned roles. Its an act that
can last a lifetime.
at this stage teens rarely tell their parents because they view their
parents as homophobic. Parents give off many hints about how they
feel about the gay community. If they would not accept a son as gay
would they accept him as a Transsexual? Schools give off more signals
as gays are battered daily. Many also know that their peers would
never accept them as TS. The only option is to stay in the closet
where its emotionally dangerous and physically safe.
We're very close. Why didn't he
tell me before we were married?
Transsexualism is a severe test for a marraige. While some survive most do not.
What happens if a Transsexual does not have surgery?
is a grim possibility. Almost every transsexual can report having
had suicidal thoughts or attempts at some point in their lives.