Survivors of a Suicide Attempt
Helping Transsexual, Transgender, and Crossdressers Considering Suicide
by Laura Amato
You've heard it before. Someone says: "I'm going to kill myself". Immeadiatly you feel helpless. What do I say to this person? I certainly don't want to give them any ideas on the subject. So often we say nothing so we don't say the wrong thing. We may tell them that everything will be OK, or that they are cared about. After a while though we may sense that we are not getting through to the person.
A person seriously contemplating suicide is not thinking clearly. Emotional circuits are over-firing and logic circuits are under-firing, There are feelings of hopelessness and dispair that are often so deep the potential victim can't see a way out no matter what you say. Rational solutions often don't work. Often clinical depresseion is at work here that requires therapy and medication.
Suicide prevention experts counsel that you shouldn't be afraid to discuss suicide. It won't give them any ideas they don't already have. Get them to talk about it. Ask why they want to do this and how. Is it anger, hopelessness, frustration? Identify the reason.
There is one thing that potential victims don't realize. Many suicide attempts fail often with terrible consequences. People who attempt it can be incapacitated for the rest of their lives. The wrong dose of the wrong pill could cause permanent brain damage, a stroke or parlysis. Awaking into a vegetative state is an awful way to live. A failed hanging attempt can result in a crushed laranyx, loss of speaking ability and a tracheotomy. Imagine talking through a synthetic voice box for the rest of your life. A slit wrist opens up to as much as a 6 inch wide ugly gash, exposing muscle and tissue. The unsightly scars mark you for life and everyone will know you attempted suicide. Living with a failed attempt can be worse than death. Point this out to them. A significant number of suicide attempts do fail despite the best efforts.
Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Time heals all wounds. Whether someone constantly talks of suicide or just once in a while take all threats seriously. No matter what the reason there is a serious problem or the person would not be metioning it. Its not a craving for attention, its a serious cry for help.
Many of our moderators have completed an online suicide prevention course. This is the same course that many Suicide Hotline volunteers take. Anyone can take the course. There are Hot lines for Transgender and Transsexual persons: The Trevor Project is for gay, lesbian, transgendered and Bisexual (LGBT) persons age 13 to 24. The GLBT National Help Center not only specializes in suicide prevention but answers questions as well.
If you are Transgendered, Transsexual, or a Crossdresser considering suicide you are not alone. The suicide rate for us is 31% or higher or 9 times above the average rate. We are here to help. Consider a Gender Therapist as well.
There is not a person on this site that won't give you the help, support and love you need to help you survive your crisis. If you are considering suicide talk to us. Most here have been through it and survived. So can you.