Successful Sex Change Brings Happiness And Marriage For Texas Man
by Jim Weaver
(Deb) grew up in southern Indiana and from an early age he always
felt that something not quite right. I just felt my body didn't
fit with who I was, he said. My parents were very understanding
and instead of a doll, I had a G.I. Joe action figure. I preferred
male oriented activities and played a lot of sports," he
said, "I was what they called a "Tom Boy." Jakes
dad taught him to play baseball and golf, and he recalls enjoying
his collection of Matchbox race cars. In elementary school Jake
(Deb) had lots of friends and was a happy child. "I dressed
like all the girls and did what they did," he recalls,
"but by 8th grade we were able to wear jeans to school
and I never wore another dress." Jake remembers being very
socially active in high school, a regular "Party Animal."
"I smoked, and began drinking, but my folks said no when
I wanted to buy a motorcycle." Jake remembers feeling like
an outsider when the girls began talking about boys. "Boys
just didn't have
it was time for college, Jake enrolled at Indiana State at Evansville
and lived at home during his freshman year. "Gays were
outcasts at my high school, but when I got to college I told
my Mom that I thought I was a lesbian," Jake recalls. He
(she) was interested in the military and joined the Army Reserves.
He was called up for Desert Storm and served for 2 years attaining
the rank of Captain. "When I returned home, I had grown
up and was more interested in getting a good education and a
start on a career," he said. Jake visited the University
of Texas thinking he might enroll there, but found it much too
big." A friend recommended Texas Women's University in
Denton, Texas. "They had a military program and they were
glad to see someone who had had some active duty," Jake
said. He enrolled in art student majoring in photography. Jake
became involved with the lesbian bar scene at college, but remembers
being unhappy with the anti-male rhetoric of some of his friends.
had been receiving professional counseling for his drinking
problem and why "I hated my body."
In 1998, Jake was working in the library on Texas Women's University. A graduate student named Malinda was also working there preparing a history of the university. "I asked her out to dinner," Jake recalls, "and on the first date I told her of my sex change. She was fine with it and two years later, we were married." My transition to a male body was relatively easy in retrospect, except for the multiple surgeries. Things don't heal as quickly down there." Jake's parents and sister Ginger were supportive throughout the two year sex change, as were his friends and co-workers at the university. "I remember the first time I used the men's rest room at the University," he said. "My boss happened to be there at the same time and welcomed me "to a man's world." Jake is perhaps the only person to serve in the U.S. Army as both a woman and a man. "When I had a chance to return to the active duty as a man, I was thrilled," he said. "It was one of my best years of my life."
When his wife was offered a teaching position at Prairie University (a historically Black school now part of Texas A&M) Jake left his job with the Texas Women's University and moved with Malinda to Brenham, Texas. Today, he operates a ceramic arts studio in Brenham and is also employed at nearby Texas A&M University as a software trainer.
Ten years after his decision to undergo a sex change Jake has become involved with other transsexuals who are considering gender reorientation or are currently in the process. "I know how it changed my life for the better, and how very thankful I am that I did it. I'm anxious to share my information and provide encouragement whenever I can," he said.
Jim weaver is a freelance writer from suburban Philadelphia.