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I often think about the future.
What will my life be like? Will I be happy? Will I be fully integrated into the world as Carolyn?
Will I be in a world apart, and miserable? Somewhere in between?
I wondered how you all felt about your futures. This poll is meant primarily for MtF and FtM
TS members, but anyone is welcome to participate.
HUGS
Carolyn Marie
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Future Expectations How do you see your life changing
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Posted 03 May 2010 - 12:51 PM
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Posted 03 May 2010 - 01:05 PM
Well - perhaps I am not the person to ask as I am 3/4 through the door already. People who don't know me, don't seem to notice anything different. I am just a woman, like 50.9% of the world.
Of course that makes me 99.99999 % happy
Elizabeth Anne
OOOPS: researching this - more males than females world wide (1.07 males/1 female)
BUT USA?
In the united states there are more women though,
Males: 138,053,563 (49.1% of pop.)
Females: 143,368,343 (50.9% of pop.)
Of course that makes me 99.99999 % happy
Elizabeth Anne
OOOPS: researching this - more males than females world wide (1.07 males/1 female)
BUT USA?
In the united states there are more women though,
Males: 138,053,563 (49.1% of pop.)
Females: 143,368,343 (50.9% of pop.)
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Posted 03 May 2010 - 01:10 PM
You know, Carolyn.....
This is an ever turning and changing scenario for us...
Because, what we think is on track one day, can be completely derailed the next...
Early on, I felt pretty secure as to how I would proceed with all of this and what lay in store for me...I thought I had it pretty well under control...
But, the longer I go, the less secure I feel. And I'm more in a situation like I'm playing it day by day....
But, I'm in it for the long run.....
What will be....will be...
Donna Jean
This is an ever turning and changing scenario for us...
Because, what we think is on track one day, can be completely derailed the next...
Early on, I felt pretty secure as to how I would proceed with all of this and what lay in store for me...I thought I had it pretty well under control...
But, the longer I go, the less secure I feel. And I'm more in a situation like I'm playing it day by day....
But, I'm in it for the long run.....
What will be....will be...
Donna Jean
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Posted 03 May 2010 - 01:12 PM
I can't be certain everything will be perfect, BUT i know in my heart I will be as I should.
Melanie
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Posted 03 May 2010 - 02:12 PM
Mm, I put reasonably well-integrated as my chosen gender...only because I plan to be out about being trans for my whole life. I wanna stay an activist, not fly under the radar! And I know that's going to end with some people telling me that I'm really just a woman with a prosthetic, but I don't care. So nyah. :P
And I put reasonably happy for the other one because it's only five years. By then I'll only be 28, I probably won't even have my Master's yet. I might still be overseas teaching, I might find out that I hate it and take a job as a translator instead...I don't know what will happen between now and then, but I can't imagine sublime happiness finding me in the space of five years.
Contentness, though, that's something I can work with. That's all I want - nice clothes that fit and to be content. Don't knock the simple happiness!
And I put reasonably happy for the other one because it's only five years. By then I'll only be 28, I probably won't even have my Master's yet. I might still be overseas teaching, I might find out that I hate it and take a job as a translator instead...I don't know what will happen between now and then, but I can't imagine sublime happiness finding me in the space of five years.
Contentness, though, that's something I can work with. That's all I want - nice clothes that fit and to be content. Don't knock the simple happiness!
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Posted 03 May 2010 - 02:22 PM
Batsu Maru Otoko Yo!, on May 3 2010, 03:12 PM, said:
Don't knock the simple happiness!
That's it!
You nailed it......
Whatever it is...it's about happiness!
Donna Jean
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Posted 03 May 2010 - 02:47 PM
I just want to remind folks that you don't need to post a reply to cast a vote in this, or any poll.
Over 40 people have viewed the poll, but only 7 have voted. I know more than that many
members have viewed it. thanks
Carolyn Marie
Over 40 people have viewed the poll, but only 7 have voted. I know more than that many
members have viewed it. thanks
Carolyn Marie
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Posted 03 May 2010 - 03:18 PM
I said reasonably for both. Because I'm not sure I'll ever be completely happy unless I am physically the same as a bioguy. But hopefully it will improve my lack of social skills and a social life. And of course just being myself and being comfortable in my own skin will just make me happier than I've ever been. But there will probably always be that part of me that just wishes I could have been born "normal" to begin with. Like my therapist said, it's "tragic in a way" that I didn't go through the proper puberty when I should have. So yeah, reasonably happy, reasonably integrated into society.
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Posted 03 May 2010 - 06:15 PM
I said very well integrated cuz I'm hopin I could have had bottom surgery by then HOWEVER that answer also will greatly hinge on whether I can grow facial hair as fast and in as great amounts as Stranded :P
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Posted 03 May 2010 - 06:42 PM
I to aspire to Stranded's hair greatness.....
In the right dark lighting it's kinda there after I paint some on! ;p
I think happiness is all ablout perspective.
What I can't completely change I'll accept and therefore change or transition it in my mind to be happy with me and knowing the real me is all that matters- whatever shows on the outside is just a bonus.
But if we focus more on being happy with our enternally selves I think alot of what society thinks are nature kinda back handed us with won't matter so much.
Inner peace is the way ladies and gents!
Besides, think of all the poor people who will never get as far as we have in our own little ways.
That would really suck to detransitioon back to any former stage.
Now dosen't that bring everybody some relief and happiness knowing that can't ever happen?
Don't fret over what you don't got- flaunt what you do!
TAO helps!
In the right dark lighting it's kinda there after I paint some on! ;p
I think happiness is all ablout perspective.
What I can't completely change I'll accept and therefore change or transition it in my mind to be happy with me and knowing the real me is all that matters- whatever shows on the outside is just a bonus.
But if we focus more on being happy with our enternally selves I think alot of what society thinks are nature kinda back handed us with won't matter so much.
Inner peace is the way ladies and gents!
Besides, think of all the poor people who will never get as far as we have in our own little ways.
That would really suck to detransitioon back to any former stage.
Now dosen't that bring everybody some relief and happiness knowing that can't ever happen?
Don't fret over what you don't got- flaunt what you do!
TAO helps!
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Posted 07 May 2010 - 08:35 AM
ChalenAustin, on May 3 2010, 07:42 PM, said:
Don't fret over what you don't got- flaunt what you do!
TAO helps!
TAO helps!
Yeah...that's the right attitude!
I love it!
Donna Jean
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Posted 07 May 2010 - 08:55 AM
I put totally integrated into society, I will remain active in the Trans Community - this is where my friends are but I will be full time as a woman (with or without the surgery) and so as much an integrated part of society as I have ever managed to be.
I also checked miserable and unhappy - having nothing whatsoever to do with my gender just based on my past history of ever mounting failures and disasters - I used to think things would get better but I am just getting tired of being disappointed all of the time.
The Pessimist's code: Expect the worst and you will never be disappointed.
Love ya,
Sally
I also checked miserable and unhappy - having nothing whatsoever to do with my gender just based on my past history of ever mounting failures and disasters - I used to think things would get better but I am just getting tired of being disappointed all of the time.
The Pessimist's code: Expect the worst and you will never be disappointed.
Love ya,
Sally
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Posted 07 May 2010 - 11:33 AM
Sally, on May 7 2010, 06:55 AM, said:
I also checked miserable and unhappy - having nothing whatsoever to do with my gender just based on my past history of ever mounting failures and disasters - I used to think things would get better but I am just getting tired of being disappointed all of the time.
The Pessimist's code: Expect the worst and you will never be disappointed.
Love ya,
Sally
The Pessimist's code: Expect the worst and you will never be disappointed.
Love ya,
Sally
I know that's the front you put up, Sally, but somehow, deep down, I know you hope for better, that you haven't quite given up.
I don't think "give up" is in your vocabulary.
Life has a way of surprising us. You'll see, sweetheart. It will surprise you too some day. Until then, I'll keep the hope alive for you.
:wub:
Carolyn Marie
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Posted 07 May 2010 - 12:49 PM
Sally, on May 7 2010, 08:55 AM, said:
I put totally integrated into society, I will remain active in the Trans Community - this is where my friends are but I will be full time as a woman (with or without the surgery) and so as much an integrated part of society as I have ever managed to be.
I also checked miserable and unhappy - having nothing whatsoever to do with my gender just based on my past history of ever mounting failures and disasters - I used to think things would get better but I am just getting tired of being disappointed all of the time.
The Pessimist's code: Expect the worst and you will never be disappointed.
Love ya,
Sally
I also checked miserable and unhappy - having nothing whatsoever to do with my gender just based on my past history of ever mounting failures and disasters - I used to think things would get better but I am just getting tired of being disappointed all of the time.
The Pessimist's code: Expect the worst and you will never be disappointed.
Love ya,
Sally
SALLY STOP IT!
Tain't you ... you just need some hugggggggs
{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{ HUGGS HUGGS HUGGS }}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
A pessimist is just am optomist having a bad day! And don't give me no lip about being a realist! People who love can do so because they can see the good in the world! The bad is just an inconvenience... AND YOU my dear girl have tons of love.
Love you, by the way
Lizzy
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Posted 09 May 2010 - 09:12 AM
Yes, Sally!
STOP IT!
Besides, looking into my crystal ball, I see a BIG change coming for you soon!
You'll see!
LOVE
Donna Jean
STOP IT!
Besides, looking into my crystal ball, I see a BIG change coming for you soon!
You'll see!
LOVE
Donna Jean
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Posted 09 May 2010 - 11:23 AM
Seeing as I am losing weight at a reasonable pace atm and currently looking for a job to fund my therapy etc etc, I think it's reasonable to think that I will be happy in 5 years. Hell my outlook took a 180 since I came out. I was far worse before. 5 years is a long time.
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Posted 09 May 2010 - 12:35 PM
Dee Jay - you have a crystal (censorbot gonna hit this)?
Look in the 5 years Carolyn projects? You at 65 and me at 68? (ALMOST as old as WWOLP person)
We both will be about 3-4 years post op.
Dirk will be retired from th LSP (State Police).
Modonna will be making a comeback again.
World peace will be here and the world will be Green! Cats and Dogs living together, oh my!
I have one big question - look into that 'device."
Way past Dorothy and those monkey creatures, waaaaay deep.
Where is my phone charger? I seem to have lost it?
And while still 'skyving' - who will be loving you with all her heart, mind and soul?
WHO WHO WHO?
Lizzy
Look in the 5 years Carolyn projects? You at 65 and me at 68? (ALMOST as old as WWOLP person)
We both will be about 3-4 years post op.
Dirk will be retired from th LSP (State Police).
Modonna will be making a comeback again.
World peace will be here and the world will be Green! Cats and Dogs living together, oh my!
I have one big question - look into that 'device."
Way past Dorothy and those monkey creatures, waaaaay deep.
Where is my phone charger? I seem to have lost it?
And while still 'skyving' - who will be loving you with all her heart, mind and soul?
WHO WHO WHO?
Lizzy
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Posted 09 May 2010 - 10:31 PM
i could not answer this poll. i really wanted to, but even if i think about the future i'm constantly aware that i have absolutely no way of knowing what it will be like... like when i graduated from high school and everyone had to write on a piece of paper what they imagined they'd be like in 5 yrs, so we could look at it at our reunion.......i put that i'd be a billionaire... oh well. i was never planning to go to that reunion anyway.
hopefully i'll be happy and fully integrated into my true gender. but i don't even know when i'm going to start my transition.
peace&love
leigh
hopefully i'll be happy and fully integrated into my true gender. but i don't even know when i'm going to start my transition.
peace&love
leigh
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Posted 10 May 2010 - 09:28 PM
I went with reasonably in both columns. Perfection is unattainable, so I don't aim for it. But I know that I am on a good path and that 5 years from now, things will be mostly where they should be...mostly.
luv
Gin
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Posted 25 May 2010 - 12:30 PM
Gee, I guess that it depends on when you answer this question as to what you feel towards your future....
I'm feeling considerably less optimistic than I did at first on this thread.....
Maybe I need to rethink things a bit....
My last year was a rocket ride of wonderful things....
But, I'm just not seeing a continuation of that.....
Donna Jean
I'm feeling considerably less optimistic than I did at first on this thread.....
Maybe I need to rethink things a bit....
My last year was a rocket ride of wonderful things....
But, I'm just not seeing a continuation of that.....
Donna Jean