your Transfolk questions to Miss Laura
Welcome to Miss Laura's TransTerrific Advice Column
Dear Miss Laura,
I believe my son is transgender. It has been extremely difficult
trying to deal with this in the right way. I am Catholic and somewhat
feel that gays are condemed. on the other hand, I have watched my
eight-year-old grow up and what he is experiencing is not a choice.
He has said he wants to be a girl ever since he was born and loves
to dress-up. Every aspect of his life is affected by this. He feels
so awkward around boys and girls because he is not sure who will
accept him and who will make fun of him. We are very lucky that
our extended family accepts him, but now that he is getting older
we are terrified of what puberty will bring. We have taken him to
several councelors to help him with self-esteem (not to try to change
him), but not even the professionals know how to deal with this.
Me and my husband are desperate for some kind of guidance! We don't
know anyone who has gone through this and we are afraid that we
are doing the wrong things. We want him to be true to himself, on
the other hand we live in a small town and we are afraid for his
safety. He knows that when he grows up he can start dressing like
a woman, but while in school it is too dangerous. Is there some
one we can go to for advice and mentoring? I thank you for your
beautiful, clean web site.
Dear Worried Mom of a Transsexual Child,
My heart goes out to you. Your son is lucky to have such accepting
parents. I have several teen members on the site whose parents refuse
to even discuss the matter. All are very suicidal. All these kids
need is the opportunity to be themselves when ever possible.
Miss Laura is not a Mental Health Professional. Advice is given from years of experience as a Transsexual. If you have a problem with gender or other mental health issues you should see a Gender or Mental Health Professional.