Dear Miss Laura,

I am a 45 year old crossdresser. I came out to my wife because I couldn't take it any more. I've given her books and articles on the subject but she is oppossed to letting me crossdress in the house. She says she is concerned about our children 10 and 12 years of age. I need to dress. What can I do?

Belle of nobody's Ball

Dear Belle,

There are places you can go where you can dress safetly without harrassment. These are crossdressers Groups which usually meet once a month or more. They are located in large cities and some medium ones. Here's a List.

Groups usually accept members from all groups on the Transgendered spectrum. Many have places for you to change so you don't need to go out in public dressed en femme. You'll meet many friends who all share a common bond.

For the longer term you do need to compromise with your wife. Remember you too are a partner in the relationship. You too pay the bills and this is part of you.

With young children in the house many couples opt for a day or a few hours where the children are someplace else. Grandma's is a good place or even if they just spend time with mom out somewhere. Either way you both can set the rules as to when and where you crossdress.

Laura Amato