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Dear Miss Laura,
I'm writing about my brother. He's a 40 year old, married, cross dresser. Our father is the only one who doesn't know about the cross dressing. I have never had a problem with his life-style, in fact I have embraced it and helped him with it. The thing that I don't know how to deal with is that he has cheated on his, then girlfriend, with transvestites.
9 years ago he was diagnosed with HIV. To add to all
of this he also has a reoccurring drug habit, crystal-meth.
I was always really close to him until the last three
years or so. He has slowly been pushing the family
away, he hasn't talked to my father in at least 8
months. My mother received an e-mail from his wife
last week, she's at her wits end. She isn't sure how
bad the drug use is, but he has been sneaking out
at night in drag to hang out with the transvestite
prostitutes that hang out at the corner diner, he
started taking female hormones and he is constantly
on the computer in chat rooms
doesn't care what his wife thinks and is pushing
Your brother's behaviour is very destructive not only to himself but others as well. The fact that he's engaged in two high risk illegal behaviors shows that. He also doesn't seem bothered by the fact that he may be spreading HIV which is considered criminal.
agree with you that he does need help. The problem
is no one will help him until he gets off the drugs.
He needs to get himself into a drug rehab
certainly is much more than a Crossdresser and since
he is taking hormones is likely Transsexual which
means he feels like a woman trapped in
his drug use is eliminated then he should see a
Therapist to help
Why do you feel your father couldn't handle the truth? I would advise that the Transgendered person should be the one to out themselves not others because its a personal choice.
do have meeting for wives and family of Transgendered
in our chatroom every Saturday night at 7:00Pm Eastern
time. . Please join us for support.
bear in mind that allTransgendered don't act like
your brother does. I wish you the best of luck and
feel free to write me anytime. I care. If your brother
needs to contact me he can reach me at
Miss Laura is not a Mental Health Professional. Advice is given from years of experience as a Transsexual. If you have a problem with gender or other mental health issues you should see a Gender or Mental Health Professional.